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A case came to light in Ghaziabad, which not only exposed the rift between a husband and wife, but also brought out many deep issues of the society. This is the story of a person who forced his new-born wife to look like Bollywood’s famous actress and dancer Nora Fatehi. A few months after the marriage, the wife got so upset due to the insistence of her husband that she lodged a complaint with the police. The wife alleges that her husband used to force her to do workouts in the gym for three-three hours daily and also impose strict ban on eating and drinking. Experts know why this change is coming in the mentality of men?
What is the whole matter?
According to media reports, this person from Ghaziabad was married a few months ago. After marriage, he started pressurizing his wife with fitness and looks. He wished that his wife became a figure and look like Nora Fatehi. For this, he forced the wife to follow a hard workout routine and make a heavy cut in food and drink. The wife initially considered it a worry of her husband, but gradually this stubbornness became a burden for her life. Eventually the woman lodged a complaint with the police and alleged that her husband tortures mentally and physically.
Social media discussed like this
After this news came to light, various reactions were seen on social media. Some people described this person as mentally unwell and some called him crazy about fitness. However, to understand the matter deeply, it was necessary to take the opinion of psychologists. Dr. Imran Noorani, senior psychologist at Sir Ganga Ram Hospital in Delhi, gave his opinion on the matter. He told some such things, which help in understanding the mindset behind this incident.
Because of which men do this?
According to Dr. Noorani, comparing your partner to a celebrity shows that you are not accepting your partner heartily. In this case, the husband wanted his wife Nora look like Fatehi. This is a kind of ‘sense of control’. Such people want everything to be according to them, what their partner looks like. What to eat, how to eat etc. Dr. Noorani says that people with such mentality often impose their wishes on others to hide their self-esteem. Such people are very aware of their image in the society. He feels that if his wife looks like a celebrity, then his social status will increase. However, this thinking is far from reality. These people try to implement the glitter and glow on social media in real life, which is not only difficult, but can also be cruel at times. In this case, the husband’s behavior was not only going to control, but it also showed symptoms of body shaming and mental harassment.
The number of such people in the society is very high
Dr. Noorani said that there is no shortage of such people in the society. Many people put various pressure on their partner. These include things ranging from dressing to food and fitness. However, it is important to understand a fine difference here. Trying to worry about your partner and pressurize him, there are two different things. It happens when both partners are ready for something by mutual consent. At the same time, if someone tries to force his partner according to his will, then this can be a psychological problem. According to Dr. Noorani, 10 out of every 1000 people will definitely be found who try to dominate the partner in their relationship. These people want to run their relationship on the basis of power and control, which is harmful for the relationship in a long time.
How important body image and personality?
In today’s era, body image, personality and looks are being given a lot of attention. Social media has impressed people’s thinking so much that everyone wants to look perfect. Dr. Noorani says that if there is love and belief in the relationship, then these things do not matter. Emphasis on body image or personality is just a desire for external validation. If the husband and wife adopt each other from the heart and accept each other’s shortcomings, then these external things do not come in the relationship.
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